Swinging is one form of consensual non-monogamy. People use the word differently, so a label is not a substitute for asking what someone means. Participation is for adults who can freely make their own decisions. You do not need to adopt a label, attend an event or agree to an experience to learn more.

Discuss boundaries before making plans

Talk about what you are interested in, what is off limits and what remains undecided. Include everyday matters such as messaging other people, sharing contact details, photographs and travel arrangements. An agreement should be specific, voluntary and open to revision.

Consent applies to each person and each situation. A partner cannot consent on someone else's behalf. Silence, previous participation or an event ticket does not imply agreement. If someone is uncertain, stop and ask rather than making assumptions.

An adult couple reviewing profile privacy together
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Build a profile at your own pace

Use a display name you are comfortable sharing. Avoid home addresses, workplace details and other information you do not want public. Review the visibility of each profile field and photo album. Other people may copy anything you share, so privacy controls cannot replace thoughtful choices.

Make a first meeting straightforward

  • Begin with a conversation and clarify that meeting does not create an obligation.
  • Choose a public place for an initial introduction when appropriate.
  • Arrange your own transport and a simple way to leave.
  • Check the venue, organizer and current event details directly.
  • Ask before photographing anyone or sharing their identity.

Respect different decisions

A courteous decline is enough. Do not repeatedly contact someone who has said no, and do not pressure a couple to decide together in front of you. Use the site's reporting tools or contact the team if a conversation crosses a boundary.

Explore the community groups and read the site rules before joining a discussion. For health questions, use our wellbeing guide as a starting point for a conversation with a qualified clinician.